Are you worried about a loved one with military PTSD? While our recent awareness of PTSD as a result of military service has led to increasingly open conversations and new treatments and therapies for veterans returning from deployment, PTSD itself is nothing new.
When your spouse, partner, family member, or friend shows signs and symptoms of PTSD, you may feel helpless and unsure what to do.
We’re here to help with advice for helping your loved one, as well as yourself, when dealing with the often-disabling effects of PTSD.
It is perfectly understandable and acceptable to feel afraid, frustrated, and angry when PTSD invades a formerly happy home. The symptoms of PTSD, including a decreased ability to communicate, emotional or physical withdrawal from loved ones, irritability, and self-medicating through drug or alcohol use, can often cause frustration or even fear in those trying to support the veteran in his or her transition back into civilian life.
Don’t attempt to repress your own worries and fears. They are perfectly natural, and open communication is an important step in helping someone suffering from PTSD to realize they may need to seek care.
Veterans Affairs has some great advice on how to provide support for a spouse, partner, family member, or friend who is dealing with PTSD after returning from deployment, including:
As withdrawal is one of the biggest symptoms of PTSD, you may find that your loved one refuses your help or says they don’t need any.
Be sure to remind them that you are happy to give them the space they need, but that you’re here to help when they are ready to ask.
Many families find it difficult to discuss emotions and vulnerability, which may lead your loved one to shy away from or avoid talking about their PTSD or leave them unable to admit they need help.
This can lead to communication breakdowns in other aspets of life, too. Focus on keeping communication open, honest, clear, and to the point. Be sure to listen carefully when your loved one is speaking with you, and only offer advice if they are open to hearing it.
Don’t talk around feelings and emotions, but state them openly and encourage your loved one to do the same. Ask them what help they may need to speak openly in the future.
If communication difficulties persist and your relationship is suffering, it may be worth looking into family counseling.
Therapy can help everyone in the family understand how better to speak with each other about this change in their lives, and help you build a plan for how to move forward emotionally.
Spouses and children of veterans suffering from PTSD often find themselves walking on eggshells in an attempt to “keep the peace”, throwing their own mental and emotional health by the wayside in an attempt to smooth things over.
There’s an old saying: “You cannot give someone water from an empty well.”
If you don’t care for yourself, you’ll be drained physically, emotionally, and mentally. Spouses and partners of veterans suffering from PTSD often “burn out” and become sick or suffer from depression or anxiety themselves.
A few ideas for self-care that can help you to maintain your own emotional and physical well-being while supporting your loved one include:
Treatments for and understanding of PTSD continue to evolve, with new medical and scientific research coming out all the time. You should never feel like you have to have all the answers, or that you’re the only person who can help your loved one.
PTSD can be disabling, whether it involved direct combat experiences, sexual trauma, or even if you never saw combat. If you know have a loved one who is a veteran with PTSD as a result of military service, Bluestein Attorneys’ SC Veterans Advocates Team is here to help.
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